Can someone anyone please tell me what has happen to People ? In the last 24 hrs I told someone I considered my best friend which ain’t saying much for the last 7-8 yrs to go fuck off and when pressed I realized he ain’t no fucking friend of mine. Also I had to listen to my 13 year old son say some of the most horrible things I have ever heard and he knew I wasn’t able to give him the ass whipping he deserved as his Mother jumped on the band wagon and I was totally disgusted.
I owe no one nothing and I am sick of fucked up people if it was possible I would own my own island and be done with 90% of the people I ever met. I am not saying I am perfect or really all that great of a person but there is a clear distinction between me and MOST people I am at least trying. All my successes and failures have been based on other people and I always seem to set myself for disappointment. Maybe I should lower my standards on human beings to the level of an animal, they shit eat have sex die.
Yeah maybe 600,000 years isn’t long enough for us monkeys to GET it and that the only thing that really matters when it’s all said and done is LOVE and to never have that to never give that means you never existed,that you never changed a fucking thing you were just passing through and if that is the case then Go fuck yourself.
I hope you get everything you deserve and if that isn’t real love and I don’t mean the kind that people have for you because of what they get from you I mean the kind they give because they really love you anything short of that is death..
I’ll be missing you
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You can’t just change other people but you can change yourself. What may be disappointing may turn into something good when you try to look at what lessons you can learn out of those disappointing moments or people. Maybe you learn to be more patient, more understanding, more focused…look at the bright side out of every seemingly bad moment and you’ll be a lot better.
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I’ll bite…. seeing as it may CHANGE something or not, but at least I am manning up and saying SOMETHING, which should count for something when the word FRIEND is mentioned… and in ONE way this post is addressed to me as much as EVERYONE you interacted, read this, knows you, whatever, maybe not something you considered …
I am not smart arse, nor am I perfect, nor anything other than me, I’m no better or worse than the next person INCLUDING you…I am just….. human… so here goes.
I’ll just address it the way I see it…
As people we only see of ourselves in others… we can only do this, and this only because it IS experience… which is knowledge. How you use THAT is what counts. So, this is my view from what I see in others of myself too. Including you.
Does the above post bother or upset me, not directly as if it was addressed to me, but in a small way due to the fact I can see that in myself in a small way, so I agree to a point, and disagree to a point.
So, for me, the main point is, questing thyself about WHY we see things this way, IE.. the whole post is your view of what you are seeing and in some way what you are seeing of yourself in others… IE you don’t like it, maybe because of aforementioned experience, knowledge, which we feel in feelings…
So, your post.. bit by bit…
YOU chose ya friends, so what is it saying about your choices?
Don’t beat yourself up over that either, because for any of us to have REAL close 100% trustworthy, never let you down friends is lucky and a testament to what others see reflected in YOU, what they LIKE to see of THEMSELVES in YOU, for us to have several, lots, or even a handful would be lucky or extremely good averages…
I feel lucky in some ways to know the real friends I have, but would I trust them to always be the way I ASSUME they are? No that is to expect too much of them, simply there is a limit to it all. I feel lucky to have grown up on an island of sorts because that massively influences things, island mentality is a reality… but it also has pitfalls and that goes for ALL of us… we can’t help but piss each other off at one point or others because of the nature of being human…
Yours son… now what alarmed me first is that although you say he said some nasty things, you think he deserved an “ass whipping”… are you fucking serious? man that disappoint me… why, well, my dad used to knock the shit outta me.. I got two sons now and have NEVER laid a finger on them… but what about that cycle i was assumed” to follow if you go by the averages… surely that’s a chain…of abuse, why would I want to be a twat and repeat that? Carried on below…
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I have never spanked my son or Beat him and maybe that was a mistake because if I even thought about saying what he said to me to my parents I would be in the hospital.
As far as choosing friends I am obviously not very selective as I enjoy all people regardless of their status race etc so basically when the pickings are few you get left with the scraps and see that I should of cared more about myself and I wouldn’t be in these situations
Basically I am not mad or angry and this wasn’t directed at any one person or thing, disappointments for me now are empowering but it doesn’t lessen the hurt, sometimes we must MAN UP and regardless of what any one else is doing or not doing stay focused
Thanks Guys I appreciate you taking the time to comment and I do think about what you say and I am trying to be honest with myself and not just see things from one side like most people do
So, John, you THOUGHT it, that’s the thing…. THAT matters, you have to address that as much as anything… for a small part of you say’s that is the answer, which it’s not… Not saying you have hit him, nor saying you will.. I am saying a THOUGHT as as bad in some ways because that fucks YOU up… not your son, he don’t know you thought it…unless you show it!
I am glad you are being honest with yourself, because if you can’t do that how the fuck are you going to get anywhere?
Again, you ASSUME friends should be the way you think… wrong mate.
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Spare the rod, spoil the child.
Hang in there, you just need a change of scenery from hicksville, TX.
Before you think I am wrong, my eldest said some pretty harsh things to me, not spoken to me much for a year or so, he is 17… does it hurt me? You fucking bet, it breaks my heart… made worse because NON of us, our family can work it out, why he is that way with me, if you KNEW what I am like as a dad, you’d agree….
But did I want to asswhip him…? NOT a single bit…I KNOW any violence is never the answer…you should already know that mate…
I just know he is growing up, changing and that’s something we all remember, same as your son is, no matter what the fuck he said, same as mine… I accept it, still love him unconditionally becuase THAT i should and it has a flip side… as with everything.. my relationship with my youngest has strengthend… I must have done SOMETHING, in at least MY eldest sons perspective… time will change things.. I hope!
And your flip side.. you just became a grandad.. now live up to that, and take that chance to make a and embrace a change in YOU and don’t fuck it up! I say that, because you need to hear it, and I was any friend I would day it, so I just fucking did!
Live on a island and be done with 90% of humans, well, wouldn’t alot of people… me, of course…I ALREADY DO…
But not anywhere near 10% of humans… your LIFE is your island.
Get real, look at that as the reality and you will be happier.
It’s not about lowering you “standards” I don’t give a toss about your standards, because I have NO IDEA what they are, what I do give a toss about is your EXPECTATIONS… and they are too high, you don’t owe anyone anything, neither do others to you…. we all do well to remember that!
Your standards are what YOU live by, not expect others to know and live up to… If you don’t like the standards other people live by, jog on and let it go…
LOVE? Yeah, great that is, but it’s just a four letter word, it’s what you attach it too and to it, that counts…
How you say that and in the same post talk about asswhipping ya son?
Come on John, wake up… see something there?
Now, you take this two comments for what you will.. I am not fussed, only that I said what I felt you needed to hear, and in some way what i needed to say to myself, as I said earlier, we see of ourselves in others…
You can as you put it… Go fuck yourself, or think about it another way… your choice…
So… talk about LOVE changing things… what have YOU changed?
Now that was the longest comment I have ever done, but hopefully you see where I am coming from, take it as I mean it, IE an honest opinion of a friend…
How I feel about what I said is irrelevant to you, but means whatever to me, same goes for you… How you feel about it is only relevant to you. Why, because YOU can only change YOU, and I can only change me…
I learnt something right there myself, as I said earlier.. this comment is addressed as much to me as you…. and your post is addressed to me as much as YOURSELF…
Hope you work things out for your own happiness and take life as you want… not as you think it is…
So… over to you mate…
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A waste of words that was then…
LOL hit that
Hey John, it sounds like you’ve been dealing with a lot of shite lately. Lots of people disappointing you lately? I would guess it’s from you being a giving person and ending up disappointed when people don’t reciprocate?
To say that can also be frustrating is beyond an understatement. At the same time, I’m glad that I haven’t done anything to piss you off yet.
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Oh, hell. I don’t want to talk to my brother because he’s an ass. Who has time for that? You’re right, whoever it was was not you’re friend. Move on and let go (easier said than done). Just don’t let those people drag you down to their level.
My heart goes out to you John. Often times in life what is perceived is not true. When you say, “I owe no one nothing and I am sick of fucked up people if it was possible I would own my own island and be done with 90% of the people I ever met.” you are off course my friend. Most people are good, but only 10% are bad. Think about it John.
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Sounds like you’re having a bad time there. Lots of drama too, by the sounds of it. Hope things pick up soon – positive vibes your way.
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