Ever since I started blogging I have always done my best to reach out to bloggers. I don’t care if your white, Chinese it seems to me if you were a blogger and had any sense we would get along fine. I know I can be slightly outrageous and overly sensitive when it comes to dealing with people. Instead of me sighting various examples of the kinds of bloggers I have come across in this post I will just say it isn’t about YOU or me getting off some steam.
Let’s look at my part in the typical scenario.
I won’t even go into how frustrating it is when someone doesn’t respond back I’m way past letting that shit even bother me anymore, I chalk it up to it’s their fucking loss and I know how people operate when it comes to sucking up online. Even though that makes me sick let’s really look at why and how my ” friendships” fall apart online.
I will come across someone who I like and we have things in common. We will hang out for a bit and help each other out. Time passes and I start caring about the person so I will do extra things for them to be nice plus it’s nice to think there are some benefits of being my friend. I have been “friends” with countless people online to NO benefit to me at all. I don’t need to say hi to someone every three months to check in I’m still alive,oh really well COOL 
I know it sounds like I’m a jerk, I may even be a jerk but I’m serious about reaching a level of income and FREEDOM from the stuff I do online and I truly want what’s best for everyone. I don’t usually have a problem with someone until they start deviating.
For example, well let’s skip all the examples because they are all common courtesy and common sense. Basically what happens is I will see that the person is really just out for themselves and I will get hurt and pull back, next thing you know we haven’t talked for months. Another log on the pile.
Let me fill you in on a little bit about me. I grew up in NYC and wore many hats. One of them was to look out for my friends, I know I have failed many bloggers because I made a judgment in my mind they were taking me for granted. Which maybe wrongly had me add them to the fuck this mother fucker list. I don’t get angry like I used to, I used to get Blindly enraged if someone dissed me and I was willing to die right there on the spot or in prison. So now as I’m older and people have changed and I have changed and what this post really is a way to look at ways to be better, to do better and when I’m wrong admit it and strive to do even better, to be a better friend, to be the best fucking friend you ever had.
I’m done your turn, and yes although the over 4,000 comments on this blog NONE are negative . I guess I’m opening myself up right now to feedback and don’t say any dumb shit because you will make an enemy. Be nice and tell me if my expectations are wrong and if there is anything I can do to deal with people better because I want to be your friend. I want you to think and KNOW I’m your friend but I’m done wasting my time with suckers and selfish GOOFS. I plan on spending time with people that I have blogged with when I’m super rich which will be by the end of this year. I’m working hard and trying to do my best but what am I missing ?
Thanks appreciate the help what is your experience ?
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I’ll just say this… you got a mate in me.
Been meaning to catch ya on Gchat… and no doubt will sometime soon.
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You bragged a about having no genitive comments well here is you first. All of the repetition of language like fuck in you blog makes you appear unprofessional It also make you look like your communication skills are limited and that you come across as a angry person,
@Cliff Posey: Thanks and your right
should of added your link and real name I’m not mad I can only get better if people are honest
Thanks
That’s fucking “negative” mate lolol
Going to bash someone, do it right, grow some balls.
Don’t preach about communication skills when you use bad English yourself.
Enough said.
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I don’t think I can even keep up with you John. You’re all over the place [and not in a bad way], sharing great information, helping, building, and constantly moving. I can overlook the language because that is just you. What I have realized is if someone can get past the fuck this and fuck that then they may actually learn something. Sure, you could clean it up and become a bit more bland and [less?] offensive, but then you’re not being you. Is the language really holding you back? How many people do you attract compared to those who may feel put off? And do you really want to attract those who are currently put off? Hell, you may not even want to attract some of us who aren’t put off!
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@Anne Bender: your amazing and I have to confess I did write a rather long comment and was going to do the basket thing from your site @
http://anneonlife.com/2010/03/18/hersheys-better-basket-blog-hop/ which I see is now about 5 deep so who is all over LOL
I think it was the second one when I ditched my comment because of all the kids running around here like brats
but you know what I need to not curse as bad because there are ladies that come by here.
I can actually write if I took the time but post come as a quick idea then I type FAST hit enter and THEN go and edit which is ass backwards
I want to do a through post about Drug laws and Israel over the weekend.( I hope) So I can write better. Thanks so much both your comments were great
John,
I think you are being waaay too paranoid! lmao
You have been nothing but nice to me since I started posting here, and from I have seen so far, to others as well. As far as if people can “deal” with your content, if they don’t like it there’s a little button on top with an x. 
Not to sound too cliche, but like I’ve heard for years, if you’re watching a television show and you don’t like what’s on the channel, change it. I don’t think you should censor yourself for anyone, you get one chance at life, say what you really mean! Some people will not like what you have to say no matter how you say it, so why pussyfoot around something if that’s not how you feel?!? KEEP IT REAL JOHN!!! 
greenlants
(or Steve, whichever)
your intensions are very nice i am impressed by your thoughts you have a diffrent way of thinking
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Brother you bring up a very good point and it’s the point I am at now, if they don’t like me or don’t reply to me then move on to someone who does respect me.
I’m also with you in the search for producing some serious income, We should work together on something soon brother, should we do the web cam thing?
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When I was young and foolish (and I’m not talking about yesterday) I used get furious for all manner of reasons. Like when you get no feedback AT ALL from a blogger and you’re like “do they just not want to engage with me at all?”. In fact, I’ve been childish in the past, once I got nothing back from this blogger at all and I just thought “ok, well I’ll comment on their blog UNTIL THEY BREAK” so I commented (properly, not just drive-bys) every single post for three months. I got no email replies, no in-line replies, no visits, nothing…
…but that was when I was young and foolish. These days I just move on, like a proper adult. But still, when someone has a a blog but doesn’t engage at all it just begs the question why they do it? Self-indulgence? Ego-trip? Who knows? But yeah, I just leave them now!
Sorry for ranting. Couldn’t help it.
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Been sitting on this since you wrote it, have written a comment here 3 times and then erased it. I have a lot to say, but I figure it would be better to talk to you in private about it instead of airing it for everyone to see.
Hit me up on Skype if you would like to talk about it any…..
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I guess people just have different perceptions and mood swings. It’s not like you can just expect all people to respond when you ask them something. Reciprocation does not happen all the time.
People who think negatively will always be in doubt of their relationships online and off. Some people may not respond in social networks in “real time” but when they do even if it’s late, that means they want to keep track on what and how you’re doing because they care and you shouldn’t loose sight of it.
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I think Keith’s offer to help is a great example of the community your building and that people will help each other.
I agree with what some of the other folks have said, if you’re not being authentic, you’re not being you.
Be you bro and keep being you, those people that understand you and get you will be the ones to become your true friends. Online or off. Why worry about what everyone else thinks, you have one life, one…. if you live it worrying about this one and that one chances are the last one on your list will be yourself. Fuck the clowns that can’t handle the real you.
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